Chapter 10, question 3

                Revenge is one subject that had a lot of results when I searched on the internet.             I feel that whenever someone is mad, that person always thinks about revenge. Yes revenge sounds like a very hateful thing although; it is very natural for people to feel revenge when he or she is angry. Although some may feel revenge is a temporarily feeling, sometimes it is not. For example, I have two friends who do not get along at all. They always do something in spite to try and get at the other person. This has been an ongoing cycle for the past couple of years and it does not seem like anything will change soon. Just like chapter 10 mention it is an ongoing cycle.  They both have a very aggressive behavior which does not seem to help the situation what so ever. Sometimes people are able to reconcile and in other cases people cannot.

Chapter 12, question 2

                Last month it was my 22^nd birthday.  I complained the last couple of birthdays that my mom never did anything special for me. This year I complained to my sisters that I was pretty sure mom was not going to do anything special for me this year as well. The day before my birthday, my mom asked what I was going to do to celebrate my birthday. My response to her was, “I don’t want to do anything, it is not like we ever do anything special on my birthday anyway”. I had always felt that if I wanted to do something for my birthday, I had to plan it myself.  I made her feel really bad and I could tell she was a little down by the tone of her voice. That same day, I came home to a very big home cooked meal and my sister who came from out of town was there as well. I felt really bad in saying my mom puts no effort into my birthday.

                There have been times when my mom gets upset when a chore around the house has not been done. One day she was very upset to know that the bathrooms had not been cleaned when she arrived home from work. What was clean was the kitchen. As she was yelling she asked, “Who cleaned the kitchen?” Not knowing if he did it or not I answered “Francisco”, who is my step dad.  It turns out he did clean the kitchen and good thing he did because if that wasn’t clean along with the bathrooms, my mom would have been mad the whole day.

Chapter 10, Question 1

                Letting go of feeling of revenge is easier said than done. As I looked up forgiveness on the internet I found over 56,100,100 results. Most of the result that appeared consisted of religious websites and quotes from the bible. I feel that forgiveness is one of the main teachings in all religions. The religious websites contained ways on how and why to forgive others. Forgiveness and reconciliation go hand and hand. When one forgives, one is able to reconcile a relationship from the past.  The search result for reconciliation also featured beliefs from all religions. Catholic and Buddhism are the two main religions that appeared when reconciliation was searched.  When I searched revenge, it was a completely different story. There were thousands of television shows and movie clips that resulted. Facebook was advertised as revenge as well. I believe that revenge plays a role in drama. Drama catches the eyes of many people therefore, movies and television shows are called revenge. I was quite surprised to see Facebook advertised as a part of drama. It does make perfects sense. Facebook is drama and sometimes people do get revenge as he or she use social networking.  

Chapter 10, question 3

Forgiveness is such a huge part in living a stress free life. Just a couple of months ago, I was going through the roughest times because I found it very hard to forgive others.  I was very upset with my dad because I felt that he had always failed me when I needed him so, I stopped talking to him for a couple of months.  Then, I had a huge argument with my mom which led me to move out of my house. I was not talking to both of my parents and I felt so horrible. I stressed me out so much that it had a big effect on homework and work. I was not able to function the same and I would start crying out of nowhere. I learned that even though someone may not say sorry for what they did or said, I sometimes have to forgive them anyway just to live a healthy life.

Chapter 10

For some people forgiveness is very simple but for others, it can be very difficult. One person I have a difficult time forgiving is my dad. My parent divorced when I was one year old and it was very difficult growing up in a single family home.  My dad was in and out of my life while my mom struggled to keep a roof over her daughter’s head. My mom worked 12 hours a day, four times a week which has done a lot of damage to her body.  Now, my dad wants to have a full on relationship with me but, I find it very difficult to forgive him for not helping my mom raise my two sisters and I when we were little. Because my mother is always in pain and always is exhausted from work, I feel anger towards my dad. I feel that if he would have contributed to our lives as children, my mom would be much happier now and not in so much pain on an everyday basis.

Chapter 9

As a member of Facebook, I present myself as a low key but yet fun person. What I hope that people get from my Facebook page is that I am a strong, independent and hard working woman.  I always try and stay positive because I choose to see the better side of things instead of the negative.  There was one incident where I posted a picture of my boyfriend and I and, a guy that I had dated years ago. He made a comment on the picture saying, “You can do better than that”. I was really upset and deleted his comment as well as deleted him from my friends list as well.  These kinds of things happen all the time in social networking and it relates to communication and conflict. The conflict is always someone posting something about you that you wanted no one to know or making rude comments.  The approach you take on handling the situation is where the communication takes place. You could one, swoop to their level and argue back or two, speak to the person who made the post in a calm manner. Discussing to the person who made the comment and telling him or her that you really didn’t appreciate what they said will most likely prevent it from ever happening again. These social network pages can cause a lot of conflict but yet, we still contribute to it every day.