Personally, I find it a bit difficult to stop a conflict. When I feel that someone is in the wrong and has crossed the line, I tend to interrupt and talk over them. This unfortunately an automatic response I have in some conflicts. Although, when it comes to my work place, I deal with conflict a little differently. I take a quick minute to gather my thoughts and say what is on my mind in a polite way. For myself and for others, I highly recommend the S-TLC method to deal with conflicts. It is a great way to stop and take a moment to gather your thoughts and listen to what the other has to say. If you stop, you save yourself the embarrassment of over reacting. When you think before you act, you are most likely not going to regret your actions. Listening can help to communicate better and help mend the conflict. Last but not least, both parties should always communicate. This will allow the conflict to be discussed in a calmer manner and provide healthy confrontation. This system is highly recommended for all conflicts and will have positive outcome. What works best for me is having a whole day to gather my thoughts. It helps me not overact as well as allows me to jot down all the points I want to discuss.
I know exactly what you are talking about! When it comes to others being in a dispute with me, I find it quite difficult to not interrupt also when it seems like they’re arguing irrationally. But just as you said there are times when you deal with conflicts differently. For me, my job, in school and/or educational settings I tend to use S-TLC method. Not always because it is the best thing to, but sometimes because have to. This method helps me in these settings because instead of interrupting the other party or talking over them, I get a chance to hear what they day and not argue back in anger and irrationally myself. I hope to master this method so I will be able to use this in every one of my conflicts, especially the thinking step. Because in most of my disputes lots of actions, from both me and the party/person I’m arguing with, become regretful ones.
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ReplyDeleteI completely agree with you about stopping a conflict. I find it hard not to try and interject knowing sometimes people maybe incorrect. At a workplace, school, or anywhere I am not accustom to I follow the S-TLC method. I try to use the S-TLC method as much as a I can, but sometimes when getting to a conflict with a friend, family, significant other it is easier to lose it a little bit because the background, the relationships from before are already made; so that's where the problem could arise. When I am in a conflict situation and don't want to discuss it; I tend to shoot some hoops or jog just so that I can calm myself down and think about the whole situation. Great Post