Being in an unbalanced relationship is very unhealthy. An unbalanced relationship feels like the job you never want to go to. I have been in a relationship where I have had the power but, I have also experienced the flip side of having less power as well. When I had the power in my previous relationship, almost anything I said went my way. Although most decisions were made by me, I did not only consider my feelings. My decisions were based off what I thought was best for my boyfriend and I. When I thought he was wrong about something, I would briefly discuss to him why I thought his decision was wrong. When I had less power in the relationship, I felt like I had a third parent. I was always nagged at and could not do whatever I wanted without notifying my significant other. I felt so horrible that all I wanted was out of the relationship and I did just that.
I completely agree with you that being in an unbalanced relationship is very unhealthy. I have also been on both sides of power in a relationship. When I had all the power I definitely made all of the decisions and didn’t care what the guy I was dating at the time had to say. When he would tell me how he felt about the decision it went in one ear and out the other. But then I was on the other side of the spectrum and didn’t have any power in my relationship. I am usually a very vocal person and will tell someone what I am feeling when I am feeling it but I allowed him to have all the power.
ReplyDeleteWow, I understand totally where you are coming from. I have many friends that have been in relationships where there has been an unequal balance of power between them and their significant other. Some of my friends have been the ones in the relationship who exerts the most power, and some of my friends have been on the other side in their relationship powerless. My friends who had power over their boy or girlfriend were in control and made all the decisions regarding their relationships. My other friends who were on the opposite side in their relationship had little power and really no voice. I seen these friends crumble and become completely yield to whatever their significant other demand. Having friends on both side of the spectrum when it comes to power in a relationship, I learn that a lopsided balance of power never works, and the key to establishing a healthy balanced relationship is communication and respect.
ReplyDeleteI like how you related an unbalanced relationship to 'the job you never want to go to". One place where I see a lot of unbalanced relationships is definitely the workplace. I have had several jobs where the managers treated the associates with no respect just because they had a position of power. I understand that managers do have authority over their associates, but I do not appreciate it when they completely dominate every little aspect of everyone else's job. I do not always want to be told what to do and how to do it. It is important to work together as a team and solve problems together.
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