Chapter 8 focuses on how people react to anger. Everyone acts differently when they are angry and that is why sometimes people may clash. I do not lean more towards anger-out or anger-ins, I am a bit of both. When it comes to family, I am a person who uses anger-outs. The reason for that is because I am more comfortable with my family than the outside world. I am not proud to say but when I do blow up, it upsets people and it causes whoever I am angry and I to not communicate for a while. When I am at work, I am someone who uses anger-in. Because I try to keep a professional image, I am low key and try not to say anything at all. Although I do not say anything, I tend to keep my anger all inside which causes a distance between the people I am angry at and I. That sometimes leads to unwanted issues at work.
I find it very interesting in the way you apply the three solutions to stress in your daily life. When it comes to the way you incorporate the third solution to your studying was a view I didn’t really think of. For me, I’ve applied the third solution to my walk-on situation. As a walk-on for the basketball team I am responsible for everything a scholarship player is responsible for. But the downfall or pain to that is that even though I have to do all this, I still must find a job to pay for school fees while finding time to practice. Also, through the whole season I am not guaranteed to play a single game. I also am not even guaranteed a spot for next year’s team. Even so, I look at it like success doesn’t come without struggle and all I can do is work hard and hopefully everything will work out for the better. The joy to my pain for this is one day earning a spot as a scholarship player on the team.
ReplyDeleteWhen I am with my family or someone close to me, I am also much more vocal. I am definitely not afraid to express myself, which sometimes causes me to have outbursts. However, if I am upset at someone at work or with an acquaintance, I am much more reserved and cautious with what I say. I definitely do not act like I do not care during an argument. One thing that really bothers me during a conflict is when someone acts as if they do not care about what I am feeling, so I try to show people respect and at least show some concern during a conflict. I definitely need to work on controlling my outbursts and being calm in conflict situations, no matter who I am dealing with. I have seen myself improving throughout the semester and have noticed that I have more control over my temper.
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